WOMEN AND GENDER 6
It has always been an old tradition that for a man to be recognizedin a society, he should always remain the head of the family byperforming specific tasks and set rules and guidelines to be followedby all the family members. There have been always some boundarieswhich women could not pass as this will be a violation of the customsand culture. Women underminance has always played a key role in thetraditional arena such that they had to perform all the hard hometasks without any assistance from their male counterparts (Brettel &Sargent 233). The difference between male and women has seen to bethe most important condition upon which a variety of cultures havebeen built which gives human beings sense of identity as well asdignity.
Today, things have changed widely as the introduction of freeeducation system has given male and female equal opportunities and inthe political arena, leadership responsibility chances have beengiven equally to all sexes. Thus it has become difficult to clearlytell the specific roles that men should play (Ward and Edelstein165). Women responsibilities today focus less on caring for childrenalone. Rather, they have moved out of homes to look for employmentopportunities in industries of their qualification given their levelof schooling. In return, this has seen men turning into doingdomestic work like cooking to marginalize their difference and createbetter understanding within the family.
The importance or irrelevance of one’s work in the modern societyhas become a key issue of discussion. People have specialresponsibilities that they play because the environments they live inhave changed considerably (Brettle and Sargent 232). The new standstoday between male and women have also been altered. There are womentasks that men are allowed to do but on contrary female cannot docertain male task like mechanic, lorry driving and leadership rolesin some communities as well as presiding over a ceremony. Malechildren who initially received traditional sex education are veryuncritical towards treatment of gender roles. Clothing style hasbecome a very crucial indicator of ethical and political attitudes.Rarely are men dressed on skirts but today ladies have turned intotrouser dressing which is seen as dominating man power. This in turnhas some repercussions on how men and women relate.
Men are being pulled into doing domestic works like cooking, takingcare of children, washing and constructing houses. This has raisedrebellion in the recent past and they have openly expressed thatcertain tasks is basically for women and certain specifically formen. Women are more driven into hard tasks and there is increasedcompetition among them looking for mates. Individualism has played akey role in how men and women view responsibilities (Brettell& Sargent 315). They see themselves on one hand as personsand on the other hand as members of a particular gender. They alsoview friendship and marriages as ends to themselves and not somethingthat can prevent men from doing certain female tasks but female areforbidden from certain male tasks.
Mead claims that a boy can grow up with some beliefs in him likegrazing of cattle is his responsibility as well as hunting. Littlewill he pay attention on schooling system even if persuaded to attendschool because the ability to learn is regarded to be older as it ismore widespread than the ability to teach (Ward & Edelstein 31).Second hand knowledge may seem irrelevant to him but at the end ofthe day he must be in a position to take good care of a woman. On theother hand, women may have all the privileges and dress decently butgiven that he accepted to get married, she must fully submit to thehusband without any resentment. She must remain loyal and follow allthe rules and regulation set by the head of the house.
There are circumstances where male do not have work and in contrast,the lady plays the responsibility of providing for the family. Thishappens in instances when female had privilege for good education andgood job. In such a circumstance, the man has to accept domesticresponsibilities because in one point or the other, the woman may belate from job. Old day’s men dominance has reduced in mostsocieties. Today in advertisement, they are told how they shoulddress, how they can be loved as well as ways of looking gorgeous, arole played initially by women. The idea of elderly choosing what isbest for their sons is gone in modern word. Nowadays, once the maleand female decide to marry, they come up with strategies to handleissues without paying much attention on their old customs andtraditions (Brettell & Sargent314). They have to share and divide work amongst themselves.
Division of labour and responsibility plays a key role today and hasoutweighed the old tradition beliefs that a specific task is supposedto be taken by a give sex. Men have now open their eyes and are in aposition to differentiate that which is morally sound and acceptablefrom that which is not acceptable. They can also recognize theirstrengths and weaknesses and are ready to endure responsibilities andvulnerabilities (Ward & Edelstein 23). In one time, he will cookand the next time the woman will care for the family expenses thusequalizing responsibilities and viewing of roles. Majority of womentoday are single mothers, have neither mates nor children yet thereare lots of men wandering around with nothing in particular to do.The society thus tries to point out this problem of incompatibilitybetween men’s value and the tiredness from domestic work withcompatibility of women’s beliefs on the tight traditions.
Some societies considers women to be the secrete keepers yet inothers men are the gossipers. The contradiction between the two is inrelation to the task that men do. The gap between male and femalehave minimized except in their contribution towards bringing up ofthe next generation that have different talents which cannot beexcluded from performing a task that one is perfect on. Mead arguesthat there is no culture where all traits like beauty, ugliness,stupidity, friendliness or hostility is assigned to only one gender.Different characters are assigned to different gender and infollowing the protocol by which children are educated about their sexmembership we can get to know the learning process to be either maleor female (Brettell & Sargent234).
Little does Mead argument applies today in most society asmodernization and technology advancement have changed the perspectiveof how men and women view their roles. Male’s roles are notnecessary as such, undefined and uncertain. Considering the educationsystem, both male and women are given almost equal chances. In thepolitical arena, women have taken key leadership position unlike inthe old days where women could not lead in any way. Again in mostorganization, female are the head of departments acting assupervisors as well as the human resource managers. On contrary,things have not changed in the Muslim religion. Male dominance isstill widely practices and women have no voice at all. They cannottake leadership roles in the mosque and in some regions women are notallowed to attend school as this is seen as a violation of custom.They are not supposed to voice their problems publicly which is anunderminance of human right.
In conclusion, it is evident that the Jewish religion that a man who care less about his wife will sleep with her once a week but aloving and caring man will do it on daily basis. By taking domesticresponsibilities does not mean that women are taking advantage of mennor men are innocent of their roles. It only portrays royalty on themen side and understanding of their potentials. Mead says that “manhast to a great effort hit upon a method of compensating himself forhis basic inferiority” (Ward & Edelstein 167). They do the workout of generosity but not to get any rewards in return.
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