WEEK 1 DISCUSSION 4
The self in psychology influences many aspects of life including howwe communicate with others and ourselves. According to Pollard(2004), the self is a concept of the cognitive, affective orrepresentation of identity that significantly influencesinterpersonal and intrapersonal communication. The self is betterdefined through the three terms self-concept, self-image andself-esteem. Self-concept is defined as how one views themselves. Itdefines one’s thoughts, feelings regarding their strengths,weaknesses, their perceptions on the emotional states, likes,dislikes, values, roles amongst other things (Bevan and Sole, 2014).The mental picture of oneself is defined as self-image. It is theidea of one’s abilities, personality and appearance depending onthe events that affect them. Self-esteem on the other hand, is thereflection of one’s worth. It is an attitude of the overallemotional evaluation that one holds.
Self-concept, self-image and self-esteem develop from other people’simages of you, social comparisons, cultural teachings and one’sinterpretation and evaluations. These three aspects affectinterpersonal and intrapersonal communication in a great way (Beebeet al. 2011). People who have high self-concept, image and esteem arelikely to have good intrapersonal and interpersonal communicationasserts Bevan and Sole (2014). They are positive, expect to beaccepted, evaluate their performances and perform well undersupervision. They are able to work hard for high standards and feelcomfortable as well as defend the self against criticism. People withlow self-concept, image and esteem are likely to disapprove others,expect to be rejected, evaluate their performances as less favorableand perform poorly. They feel threatened by their superiors, workharder for undemanding people and have difficulty in defending theself against criticism.
The aspects have affected my interpersonal communication in variousways. Having a complicated perception of myself concept, image andesteem, I have found myself at times able to communicate with othersvery well but sometimes I demonstrate discomfort and poorcommunication depending on who I am communicating with. Whencommunicating with a person I regard as better than me like acelebrity, I display awkwardness and nervousness. However when withmy peers or in class, I feel confident and well able to communicate.I even take up roles in conducting discussions without feelingintimidated. I guess communicating with people who are at a higherlevel makes me feel less confident because I regard them highly fortheir achievements than I regard myself.
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Bevan, J. L., & Sole, K. (2014). Making connections:Understanding interpersonal communication (2nd ed.). San Diego,CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.
Pollard, A.(2004). Readingsfor reflective teaching.reprinted.