ParentsShould Offer Good Life Circumstances to their Children
A lot parentswant their children to be the best they can be in life however, fewof them are ready to pursue that goal, and make sacrifices to see ithappen. And why shouldn’t the parents offer good life circumstancesto their children? Parents are generally known to have the ability,while some could say an obligation, to offer their children the bestkind of life they would wish for. Society, on the other hand, expectsthe same parents to keep their children safe from street crime, awayfrom drugs, and hazardous play. From Aristotle’s general framework,he describes one of the common ways of human life thinking. He arguesthat the training and development of emotions and thoughts fromchildhood to adulthood is still something that the parents caredeeply about, if they adore their children (Barash et al. 86). Theseparents do not need to internalize Aristotle so that they can learnit is in their best interests to know that it is their main concern.Parents’ devotion to the good of their children should be expressedprimarily through their efforts to offer good life circumstances andthe right mentally to cope with the pressures of life. The purpose ofthis paper, therefore, is to argue that parents should offer goodlife circumstances to their children irrespective of the pressuresfrom the society.
To begin with,good life circumstance would not be complete without a good healththerefore, parents should heed dietary and nutritional concerns fortheir kids. They should take the responsibility of shaping theirchildren, even if it is against their children’s wishes andprotests. These could easily be done by moderating the amount of fatintakes, increasing the amount of vegetables and fruits in theirdiet, and restricting access to junk foods (Barash et al. 87). Goodhealth can be achieved through a well selected kind of diet for thechildren, and parents should follow up by allowing considerable timeto know what is good for their children. The parents should be awarethat a vegetarian diet will be enough however, they say that some“good” foods are those that were raised based on their ethnicorigin. Parents should also be aware of what is nutritionally healthyand from a nutritional point of view this means that in order tooffer the children the best, they are allowed to go for what is notgood, as long as it does not constitute neglect or an abuse.
Secondly,parents, as they say, should also aim at turning their children intobeing the best prudential moral agents they can ever be. To be thebest, they should know that it means by having the right virtuesnecessary to planning their lives and coping with the societalpressures, while adapting to life’s vicissitudes. This also meansthat having virtues required to respond to the demands of others,standing up to what is considered right, and handling others fairly.The parents have to place emphasis on teaching their children theimportance of helping others and handling chores (Bainham 51).Parents are persuaded to emphasize on their children to work on jobsthat encourage and give them appreciation for the work demands andthe value of money – a work ethic. The parents are also urged tocompel their kids to go through a lot hours and days of religiousparticipation or training in community service – the ability toshape their sense of belonging in the community, a respondingcapacity to the others within their group, moral conscience, andsocial consciousness.
Children shouldbe raised to accept the limitations that are imposed by certainreligions, which can significantly limit preparation to other ways ofenjoying life. The parents should be aware of this in order to ensurethat their kids are able to lead the “good life” the best waythey see it (Austin 119). Again, moral distinction between theactions, which is typical attitudes of a general feature aboutparental responsibility, is not required morally to performeverything within their power to help them sire and provide the bestlife possible for their children. Parents are urged to givelegitimate weight to the interests of others besides their own andthat of their children. This involves the use of their efforts orresources that they are not able to do to their children.
It is importantfor the parents to understand that to offer a good life to theirchildren from their standpoint could not appear to be good fromanother standpoint, such as the parents’ standpoint or that of thesociety. However, there are certain social standpoints that theparents would afford their children the best life circumstances.According to Mercer (107), the society may urge the parents to offertheir children what it demands. It is therefore upon parents to heedthe society and offer the children what is needed to allow them fillsuch roles in the society. However, it could be quite different toclaim that it is best for the children to be raise in a certainmanner with disregard to these limited expectancies and capacities.
Parents, as theysay, should be aware that within the family, there exist threeimportant processes that children can adopt morality and character:developing emotional attachments, learning respect for the authority,and taught prosocial behavior (Ketterman 26). The parents should beaware that all the right and wrong starts with an attachment – theclose, emotional tie that their children will develop with them.Mercer (109) argues that children are easily influenced by those theylook up to, and these are the people whom they are emotionallyattached to. If the child does not have a powerful emotionalconnection, then the effectiveness of their parents acting as ateacher is immensely diminished. William W. Hartup, a socialpsychologist concluded that “effectiveness of the child in the wayhe/she deals with the social world comes out largely from theexperience in closer relationships” (Ketterman 28).
What kindof parental is more likely to successfully instill moral values andcharacters to the children? To answer this, parents should engage inactivities as part of parental routine in order to provide a closecontact to the children. On the hand, the parents should insist thatchildren interact with the relatives and the entire neighborhood toget rid of the worries from the children of a possible break up. Thiscould result, as they say, into a rich legacy, which has meaning andoffers good life circumstances throughout the children’s lives.Bainham (56) notes that parents should be aware that a family-averse,strong culture and self-contained families are very importanttherefore, they have to do everything they can to protect theirchildren from any circumstances from the outside world. Good lifecircumstances arise as a result of children spending more time withtheir parents. This means that more time spent with parents result toless time spent away from the media and with their peers.
Thecharacteristics above are evident however, Barash et al. (89)insists that parenting appears controversial and needs to beclarified. He explained that all organisms evolved through a specificprocess. Humans have cognitive set of behavioral and emotionalpredisposition encoded from within. It is therefore the case thatparents and their behaviors are arbitrary social. These shouldprovide the parents with the ability to pave way for the childrenwhile providing them with mastery of skills of emotional response,thoughts, and social interaction. Science, philosophy, music, andpoetry are various ways in which the parents can offer good lifecircumstances to the children.
However, if aperson argues that parents knows what is good for their children,then it offers a clear indication that parents can determine thedirection and happiness of the child. As it has been said, despitethe differences in appraisals, analogies, temporal perspectives, andspatial treatment, the roles of the parents are often combined forthe good or worse. Just like I noted earlier, parents are known todefine and respond to the children’s needs, which may reflect withworries and concerns about their character formation.as well as thestate of their lives. In many families for instance, girls may becared more than boys, and thereby are trained to give more to thefamily, and thus prepare them in a certain manner for the roles asmothers and wives in the future.
One may arguethat a child when born has a brain, and that he/she is ready toabsorb knowledge such as morals, culture, and information. As timegoes by, he or she is able to learn all this things from thesurrounding, and not necessarily through their parents’involvement. However, it is true to say that the child’s ability toacquire a good life circumstances is primarily through involvementwith the parent for a while. However, a child who is leading a badlife should not be blamed entirely on the parent (Austin 121). Thesemay be because of peer pressure, which could get the better of thechild at a younger age however, it is the full responsibility of theparent to direct the child towards the right path, then he/she willbe in apposition to lead a better life with positive circumstances.It is argued that no child is raised from a good parenting then goesout and become a drug addict, for example, unless the parenting wasgood but did not just pay much attention to loving and teachinghim/her on how to be a better person.
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