Death and Dying

DeathandDying

DeathandDying

Althoughdeathis one of theuniversalexperiencesofhumanlife,ithas remainedunderstudied in by moderndevelopmental psychologists.Currently, there is nostandarddefinitionof death,butis widelyagreedthatitoccurswhentheheart,therespiratory system,andthebrainstopworking(Belsky, 2012). Thetopicof deathis avoidedin manyculturessince manypeoplefearcontemplatinghowtheywill dieandwhatis likelyto happenafter death.In thispaper,Iwill addressthingsthat I would liketo happenbefore death,thelegacy to leave,anda beliefon whathappensfollowingdeath.

ThingsI would liketo happenbefore I die

Althoughdeathoccursunexpectedlyin mostcases,there are two thingsI would liketo happenbefore I die.First,Iwould liketo be visitedby theclosemembersof thefamily.Thiswillgivemethepeaceof mindandan opportunityto be at peacewith allof them, includingthosethat wemight havecollidedwith in thepast.Beingat peacewith others is a therapeuticmeasurefordepression.Therefore,beingat peacewith thefamilymemberswill helpmeovercomedepression,which is thefourth stageof thedeathprocess(Belsky, 2012).

Secondly,Iwould liketo havea healthcareprofessionalbesides mewhowould be sincerewith meandtellingthatIam actuallygoingto die.Thiswouldhelpmeavoiddenialandangerphasesthat intensifypainduring thedyingprocess.In addition,beinginformedthatIam dyingwill helpmereducingthelengthof bargainingstage.Moreover,beinginformedin advancethata givendiseaseis terminalandwill leadto deathwill helpmepreparea livingwill andselecta healthcareproxy(Belsky, 2012).

Alegacy I would liketo leave

Legacyrefersto a recordthatone would liketo leavein themindsof others after death.In mycase,Iwould liketo leavea legacy of excellence.Alegacy of excellencecan onlybe achievedby strivingto be one’sbesteachday.Byexcellinginallaspectsoflife(includingacademics) I will playa rolein liftingthestandardsas wellas behaviorforpeoplearound me whenI am aliveandencouragethem to upholdthestandardsevenafter death.Thisisbased on thenotionthatone’s lifeis thegreatestlegacy, andsince eachpersonhas one life,itis importantto giveall thatonecan.

Whathappensfollowinga death?

Theeventof deathaffectsboth thedyingpersonandthebereaved family.Thefamilyundergoestheprocessesof bereavementandgrieves. Bereavementis an adjustmentprocessin which theaffectedfamilyacknowledgesthefactthatone of them isgone(Belsky, 2012). Grieveontheotherhand,is regardedas an emotionalresponseto thelossof thelovedone.Beliefsabouteventsthat occurto thesoulofthedeadpersonvary by religionandculture.In mycase,Ibelievethatthesoulgoesinto a deepsleepwhileawaitingthefinaljudgment.

Inconclusion,deathis an inevitablestageof lifethat eachpersonhas to undergoat a pointin time.However,there are things(suchas seekingpeacewith everyone andpreparinga livingwill) thatone desiresthattheyhappenbefore death.In addition,eachpersonwhoacknowledgesthefactthatdeathis unavoidablewishesto leaveagoodlegacy, suchas a legacy of excellence.Moreover,theunderstandingof whatever happensafter deathis highlyinfluencedby one’s faithandculture.

Reference

Belsky,J. (2012). Experiencingthe lifespan (Loose leaf).London: Worth Publishers.